How clear are we with ourselves about what we want or do not want?
How often do we find ourselves in contexts in which we don’t feel well, but somehow let it slip avoiding to look at the situation all the way through?
Part of our work is to support people to ‘become themselves’ which, in Adriano’s words, is ‘a revelatory experience’ that allows us to ask ourselves seriously and honestly what is important to us in our lives.
“I was coming from a particularly agitated period and needed to refocus the various areas of my life. I wanted to stop being generically dissatisfied without being specific in what made me that way. Even more important was to understand what would really make me satisfied, without telling myself stories, being honest with myself.
This was a first result of the exercise, to see this tendency of my ego to have high but unspecific expectations. A pattern that prevents me from measuring success or failure. In doing so, on the one hand I neutralise my greatest fear, that of failure (benefit), and on the other hand I sacrifice the possibility of being satisfied and maybe even happy (cost).
I put the bulk of my time and energy into work. It was my priority and also the area in which it was least difficult for me to set specific goals. The work [on ‘Becoming Myself’] helped me to put down on paper in a very simple way the goals (in my case it was to get a job offer with certain characteristics by a certain date) and what I had to do to achieve them.
I found the greatest benefit by spending quality time on these reflections, going deep into the why of certain desires of mine. In fact, I only re-read the work I had done when I needed to get back to it. Dedicating myself to it in depth had already allowed me to fix its contents. Perhaps needless to say, the goals, albeit slightly delayed, were achieved. My ego likes to think it was not thanks to this exercise… but I still have to work on that.”
The work of Becoming Myself concerns all our spheres (work, couple, children, friends, society) and is a structured way of reconnecting with our aspirations, who we are and what we want. An exercise that we often find difficult because it involves asking ourselves ‘uncomfortable’ questions, but which give us back the responsibility and ultimately the freedom to follow our dreams.